The Cure for Worry and Regret

In my family we’ve been known to communicate in movie lines. A single line is all we need to reference an entire story line, metaphor or life lesson. I know what you’re thinking – yes, strangers look at us with puzzled expressions – sometimes our friends do too!

One of my favorite movie lines is from The Lord of the Rings. We read all the books with my son when he was young, so when the movies were so true to the books it was a special treat. In this particular scene Frodo, who is on a journey with his companions to destroy a magical and malicious ring, says to Gandalf, “I wish the ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened.” Gandalf, being a wizard and very wise, replies, “So do all who live to see such times, but that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.” 

Astronomical ClockAll we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.

How simple is that. 

This sage advice reminds me that hanging out in regret only causes pain. It reminds me that spending time wishing “it weren’t so” squanders precious time. The only access to peace and power is to face this moment, with all its’ beauty and imperfection, and choose.

Choose to live. Right here. Right now. 

That message reminds me to be where my feet are. How easy it can be to spend vast amounts of time thinking about what has passed or what has yet to happen. Worry can pile upon worry about who said what, where we need to be next week, what needs to get done tomorrow, and on and on and on. It makes me tired just to describe it! How much more free do I feel when I’m right here, only here, doing only what I need to do at this moment? So much more free! 

Try it right now. 

Take a deep breath. Exhale fully. Do that one more time and let the breath move deep into and out of your body. Bring your attention to your physical senses. Feel your energy settle into your body. Notice the sounds you hear. Feel the air on your skin. Look around and really see what’s in your environment. 

What are you going to do with this moment that’s been given to you?

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  1. Margie August 19, 2012 at 8:10 am #

    Kelly, I love this!

    • Kelly September 3, 2012 at 2:27 pm #

      Thanks Margie! Isn’t it great when we find wisdom in routine places like movies!

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