How To Make Peace With Your Emotions

Language of Emotions cover artHow would it feel to set strong boundaries for yourself while simultaneously building close and healthy relationships? Or to have full-time intuitive knowledge about yourself and your surroundings? What could you accomplish if you had an internal compass that unerringly brought you back to your truest path and your deepest self?

These are questions Karla McLaren asks at the opening of her book, The Language of Emotions. Embedded within the questions are the promises offered to those willing to honor and respect their emotions, learn from them and allow them to be a valued part of life.

Emotions allow energy to move freely through the body. They offer many gifts, guidance and information. Blocked they can immobilize and torment you, decrease your focus & clarity, create enmeshment, self-abandonment, apathy, depression, boundary loss, despair, and the unwillingness to play. Expressed in harmful ways they can cause harsh boundaries, hatred, prejudice, isolation, damage to yourself and your relationships.

Early in the book, Karla describes emotions as one of four major elements, including physical, mental and spirit, that make up the human experience. It details the value and purpose of each element and the importance of allowing the full expression of each. Problems only arise when one or more are overvalued and others are diminished or avoided altogether.

She makes the case for an evolved, fully-integrated self that  emerges when all four elements are honored, valued and in a respectful relationship with each other. This won’t be the first time you’ve heard this.  It’s a concept present in many cultures and traditions. Some occasions or situations may require one or more element to take a primary role, but we maintain a healthy balance by keeping an awareness of all and doing our best to honor and express them all.

Mysteries and beauties abound in all parts of us, and true genius dances in the places where those parts intertwine.  —Karla McLaren, The Language of Emotions

McLaren provides a full exploration of many emotions. With each emotion detailed, she offers a summary of gifts that emotion provides, internal questions that clarify the action called for, signs of obstruction and finally specific practices that aid in processing the emotion. 

If we believe that emotions are the cause of all our troubles …. addictions and distractions may seem to be our only answer. If we can instead welcome our flowing emotions as necessary and irreplaceable . . . . we’ll just want to understand them, flow with them, and work as their partners if we can.   Karla McLaren, The Language of Emotions

This is a densely-packed book. It has more information than you’ll get through in a weekend, but don’t let that stop you. It’s a great reference that I find myself returning to again and again. If you think you could benefit from practical tools for understanding and working with emotions you’ve not previously allowed to flow freely, then this book is just what you’re looking for!

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